1. What comes to your mind when you hear the word “Relationship”?
Care? Trust? Commitments? Love? Pain? Helping? Compromise? Sacrifice? Understanding? Adjustment? Patience? Possessiveness? Restrictions? Perfectness?
Yes…These are all the contents which hit our mind when we hear the most attractive word “RELATIONSHIP.”
We lose our self for a moment by gathering our sweet or painful memories. Some memories bring a beautiful winning smile on our face, and some went our eyes. It’s a kind of attachment/feeling between two souls.
It may between couples, brothers, sisters, friends, parents and children relationship, brother and sister, husband and wife.
The relationship is an understanding between two people. When they connect together, the result of a good relationship is growing mutually in terms of career, financially, spiritually, in terms of as a better human being. When both support each other in fulfilling their dreams, both the people in the relationship tend to grow. The relationship is harmful when you can’t achieve your dreams and goals, and the same relationship is making you stop or changing who you are.
A good relationship is giving freedom, giving independence to each other. Not putting any restrictions on any views or perspectives on him or her.
When we love a person by heart unknowingly we care for that person. We build trust between us. Because without trust, there is no value for any relationship. We encourage them to reach their goals or dreams by standing their side in all good times and bad times. We try to compromise and kill our egos and attitudes for the betterment of our relationship. Because we want our love to win not our ego. The relationship cannot be positive always. There should be Possessiveness, anger, little fights. Without these things, any relationship will be like plain rice, no masala no taste. Possessiveness is a sign of true love. But on the same line over-possessiveness is a sign of domination and lack of trust.
For example, we all know that bondage/love/attachment between father and daughter is priceless. During his daughter’s marriage, when he wants to send his daughter to her husband’s home, being a man, he cries, because he doesn’t want any other person to take care of his little princess, he will be getting many thoughts in his mind like, whether that person will take care of my daughter as I take care of her?? Whether he loves my daughter like me? Whether my daughter lives happily?
This is one of the examples for innocent possessiveness of a father.
Most of the youngsters these days think that the relationship is something to be perfect. But there is no relationship with the perfect. Relationships are imperfect. But, finding happiness in that imperfect is the goal of a relationship.
Don’t get fooled by entertainment of movies or TV shows which shows relationships are something like very romantic, very crazy, and very dreamy. Relationships are very difficult. People who are like 20/25 year old and the mind-set are unknown cannot adjust to another person in the matter of the month or week. People who are like 20/25 year old and the mind-set are unknown cannot adjust to another person in the matter of the month or week. Sacrifice your ego but never sacrifice your dreams or goals for the sake of pleasing the other person. Finally, a relationship should let each other grow to the highest potential.
I think one of the best policy in relationship is that putting ourselves in partner’s shoes and looking at the things, rather than being selfish and judging only through our eyes.